A lot of guys think that whether you get a girl has something to do with what you do or say, or how you look when you see a girl. Okay, fair call. But it’s really only part of a bigger picture. If you’re having problems with girls, chances are that it’s a symptom of a much larger problem.

A man’s relationship with women is a microcosm of his relationship to the world. If you don’t know your place in the world, you probably don’t know your place with women either. And they know it. I’m not saying that to make you paranoid, but there’s a lot of validity to it. Women “just know” when a guy doesn’t have much going for him, that he isn’t moving anywhere in life, or if he’s unfulfilled. It oozes off you like spooge off some big ass titties.

So, what can you do to rectify this? Allow me to be all enigmatic and shit for a second: The real question is – who is it that asks?

Know thyself. What do you value? What are you passionate about? What do you stand for? A man who doesn’t stand for anything will fall over nothing. A girl is evolutionarily designed to test men to see if they know who they are. They will try to push your buttons, even unconsciously. If you do fall, you fall hard. But if you stand, you stand tall, and girls are instantly attracted. They see that this is a man of substance, who doesn’t get cut up over trivialities.

So here’s the action steps for you. Sit down with a pen and a pad and think about what you really care about. What kind of person are you? What would you be willing to fight for? Where are you moving in life, and why? Who inspires you, and why?

When you get to the root of this, you’ll feel a lot more peaceful. You’ll realise that things don’t phase you as much as they did before. No matter what happens, you’ll always know who you are. And that is what makes you incredibly sexy to women. Along with this free newsletter from David DeAngelo.

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